Overcoming the Fear of Falling In Love Again

It is not unusual for some people to fear falling in love again. There are people who are wary of the emotions that come with “falling in love”. They are wary of losing control. If you are one of these people, you need to understand where the fear is coming from. Why are you afraid? What is in your way? What limiting fears or perceptions are holding you back? Do you want to be in a relationship? Are you paralyzed by your fear?

Hurt is unavoidable. Couples can hurt each other. This happens even in the very best of relationships. It is less likely to occur, however, if you have some few rules you observe right at the beginning of a relationship. These rules are simple. You just have to know them.

Know Who You Are

It is important that you know who you are and you accept – and love yourself – before you even consider entering into any relationship. You need to know who you are physically, emotionally, spiritually and mentally. You need to define your needs at the very core level of each of these areas.

This way, you will know what you want in a relationship. Although it is tempting to look firstly for external qualities, particularly in the person you want to be with, you need to seek internal qualities just as much. Both will matter in the long run.

Write down your needs and look at your list until it has become a part of your consciousness. You need to be specific, so that you will be able to attract people who share a similar perspective on love and values for loving. With this met requirement it will help you overcome your fear of falling in-love or entering into another relationship.

Take Responsibility for Your Choice

Everyone has a certain level of maturity, emotional, spiritual, mental and physical. This is why you need to know what you want so that you will attract people of the similar level of development. It takes certain maturity in these areas in order to build and sustain a healthy and dynamic relationship.

When you choose someone who does not share a similar perspective on love, you will likely be confronted with issues that will hurt you or will hurt your relationship. For instance, if you are a person who wants kids, look for someone who wants kids as well. Do not think that he or she will someday change his mind.

Take responsibility for your choice. Practice discernment. In the end, it is up to you to choose the right person for you. Your fear of love and relationships is easier to overcome if you choose the right person.

How to Choose a Really Great Lover

How to Choose a Really Great Lover (via OM Times Magazine)

Does Internet Dating Work?

It does. Internet dating works. In truth, the Internet is one of the most popular places to look for love. “1 in 5 singles is currently in a committed relationship with someone they met on a dating site,” states Dating Site Reviews. In fact, more and more couples are meeting online. With the opening of numerous online dating avenues, it is not surprising that people are turning to the Internet to look for their true love.

Online dating does work. There are significant number of people, from all ages, who have met online and are now enjoying being in long-term relationships. Many of these people have gotten married and are really happy together. Admittedly, there are online dating sites that seem “creepy” to some, so it is a good idea to look for reputable dating sites before one creates his online dating profile.

Perfect Match and e-Harmony are just a couple of reputable online sites that you can check out. There are other online sites that are just as reputable and effective in finding people their love matches. Sacred Love, for one, utilizes essential matching points in order to determine if a member is a qualified match for another member. You will be able to determine if another member is your emotional, physical, mental or spiritual match before you even actually meet this person. It is important that you ask questions in these areas, so you will get an initial “read” of the person before you actually set up a date.

Of course, aside from online dating, there are other ways to meet people. Do not give up easily on these other avenues. For instance, you can ask your friends if they know anyone they can set you up with for a date. Your friends can invite this person over for dinner and the other party along with other friends.

You can also create a “singles night” and have single friends come over. They should invite two other single friends of the opposite sex and you can all enjoy drinks and appetizers as you socialize and get to know one another. A singles night can introduce you to a lot of new people. You can also help your single friends meet other people – and perhaps, even meet their true love. Your friends generally share the same value system and they will likely attract like-minded individuals. You have better chances of meeting people who share the same values.

Don’t turn your nose up at singles activity. Join clubs with members who are single. You can join a hiking club or a business club. You can take up ballroom dancing, hiking or yoga. These are just a few of the things that you can do in order to find singles. Does Internet dating work? Yes, it is a good way to look for your special someone.

New Year in Love 2012

Today I want to speak to you about your New Year in Love

What is it going to look like? What is it going to feel like? What is the experience going to be like for you? This is the perfect moment to choose... a perfect moment to start a new love life for yourself.

How would you do that? I would suggest creating a vision and I encourage you to Vision Big.

You can create a vision of love based on your deepest inner knowing of what the experience could be like for you! How would you express your love? How would you express your intellect and your spirit and your physicality?

So to craft your new vision for 2012 I want to encourage you to utilize multimedia. If you are inspired by art create a vision board. It could be out of any material or medium that you so choose. If you are business oriented person make a PowerPoint of your vision for love of in 2012. If you're a musician or musical play your guitar, drums or sing to add your talent into your vision for love in 2012.

Whatever way you choose to express yourself, really create a vision that you can grow into, that you can become more of yourself by experiencing.

Now one thing in making a vision and another in Creating the Reality of that Vision.

You Create Your Vision by keeping it as a Vigil... coming back to it, listening to it, looking at it, reading it... again and again until it becomes real. And as thing start to manifest into reality you check them off or you circle them or you draw a big smiley face on that part of the vision that is actually occurring! So you can hold your vision accountable! You can measure it!!

Now a vision will not work, even if you put the vision together, the music together or the journal together. It will not work if you keep spending your time focusing on what isn't right or what hasn't happened, what your past experiences have been like that were unfulfilling. If you keep your mind in that place, your emotions in that place this new vision cannot take root. It takes incredible discipline to be vigilant about your vision but I know that it is possible for you!!

And I want to encourage you to really go for it this year. For a New Year in Love create a vision and keep it vigil.

For some help with getting started with your New Vision in Love that will work for singles as well as couples check this out.

Happy New Year and New Love! from www.sacredlove.com

Love Magic

Dear Karinna

I met a man on a dating site that I had instant chemistry with. He texted, emailed and sent me flowers. No man has ever wanted me that bad. I slowly gave in and fell deeply in love. We dated for four months and then had our first disagreement. Then he pretty much broke up with me. I am devastated and I want him back. Should I bother or not?

C


C

This is a really, really big life decision, love decision.

There are two schools of thought.

1- Love What Is…really embrace where you are right now. Still love him. Love and acknowledge him. But as he has wanted to move away from you, you let him go. And you just allow what wants to occur. Whether that be new energy coming in for you that is loving, or maybe he will reflect and come back to you.

This is the way of flow. This is the way of ease. It is actually a Light Path.

2- Then there is another school of thought that is Fight for What You Want. Fight for this love. Get back in there and let this man know how much you really want to be in relationship with him. Fight for what you have that you know that it is real. You can get through things. This one obstacle is not the end of your love. It is actually the beginning of how well you can open up and grow and maybe develop each of your skills that would support you in loving even more. You may have to go to therapy but you get in there and you fight for what you want.

This is a Denser Path. Because you don’t know if one fight will end up being multiple fights and you never feel like you get out of the ring. That is a valid path. Each one of them are valid paths.

I want to leave you with this. Magic occurs for us when we follow the energy that brings us life, that brings us vitality, that brings us excitement. That allows us to be more of who we really are. Magic doesn’t occur for us when we do things that drain us, that exhaust us, that demand, over and over, that we do things that are difficult.

I want you to have a Magical Experience in love so I encourage you to follow the energy that will energize, revitalize, make you feel more that who you were in the beginning, make you feel more of yourself, more fully fulfilled.

And don’t follow the energy that drains you, that frustrates you, that exhausts you, and makes you feel less confident, less supported, less loved. You want to leave that behind.

I am not sure what that path is for you but there is a true path for you that will lead you to real relationship magic.

Choose Magic.

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Lovemaking Ritual for the Holidays

I would like to take time over the holiday to have really great lovemaking what would you suggest?

Abbreviated Answer (see video for more)

My suggestion is...

Holiday Inspired Ritual Lovemaking

1. Make Time and Space
2. Light a fire in a fireplace, with candles
3. Play Sexy Holiday Music
4. Warm Oils to Massage
5. Then Give the gift to each other of New Intimate Exploration

• Such as Making Chinese Sex Tonics together
• Uncovering Egyptian Cat Foreplay inspired by your power cat
• Or trying the 6500 year old sex ritual hieros gamos-reenact this ritual lovemaking as a high priestess and king.

Find out more inspired lovemaking techniques and step by step details of these suggestions for a gift to you and your loved one over the holiday here.

Giving Thanks for Love

Today I would like to speak to you about gratitude in love.

So often we are focused on what we would rather experience in a relationship or what we are yearning to experience in our love lives. And we fail to account for the love that is actually present for us now.

And so I want to take a moment to talk about that because as we acknowledge the love that is

here for us now it provides the support for more love to grow.

I want to take this moment to acknowledge Self-Love. How do you love yourself? That is such an important part of the whole love equation. How are you loving yourself? How are you honoring yourself? How are you respecting yourself? Take that love into account, that love that is present.

I also encourage you to acknowledge family love. Loving Family Relationships that have been there for you through time. Take this moment to acknowledge them.

Also your Friends, the loving friendships that you have that have seen you through ups and downs and different stages of your life.

The Colleagues that you share with on a regular basis that you laugh with that you create with, that you work hard with. Acknowledging those relationships.

And the relationships in your Community. Whether that is at the post office, at the coffee shop, at a newstand. The people that you interact with everyday... acknowledging those relationships. And lastly, I want to acknowledge the love that is present, percolating and growing in your Intimate love life.

Wherever you are in the continuum... whether that is single, dating in a new relationship or have been with someone for decades acknowledge the love that is present for you right now. The love that is in the air, that is starting to form, that has been there and getting better with age. Taking this moment to really appreciate the love that you have in your life.

I encourage you to take a moment to write to some of the people that you love today, whether it is a line, a quote, a poem or a paragraph saying hey I really appreciate you.

I want to Thank You for being a very important part of the Sacred Love Community.

And I want to wish you a very Loving Thanksgiving!

We are here to support you in enjoying Your Ultimate Love Life now.